Donkanryoku: The Power of Not Reacting to Everything We Notice

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Donkanryoku: The Power of Not Reacting to Everything We Notice

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How much of what we perceive in other people is actually there—and how much is the meaning we create around it?

In this episode of The Same Emotional Structure, Susan Q explores Donkanryoku, a Japanese idea often translated as “the power of insensitivity,” reframed here as the power of not reacting to everything we notice.

Through the psychodynamic perspectives of Glen Gabbard and Deborah Cabaniss, we explore how our reactions can reveal something about ourselves, the other person, and the relationship forming between us—while remembering that even a sophisticated psychological explanation is still a hypothesis.

Notice. Investigate. Formulate. Stay curious.

Because sometimes we notice something real without yet knowing what it means.